Cosmic Sis-Stars Show with Anne & Care'n discussing Judgement & Self Judgement - Relationship to Self & Others

Cosmic Guardians
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Wednesday February 18th US-EU and Thursday February 19th AU 2026

Judgement and Self Judgement Relationship to Self and Others

Judgement is one of the most ancient human reflexes. It rises before we even realize it. It shapes how we see ourselves, how we see others and how we move through the world. It can protect us, limit us, guide us or imprison us. It can open the heart or close it. It can create connection or separation. To understand judgement is to understand one of the most powerful forces influencing our inner and outer relationships.

Self judgement is its quiet companion. It lives in the hidden corners of the mind. It whispers in moments of vulnerability. It shapes our sense of worth and our ability to receive love. It influences how we show up in relationships and how we interpret the actions of others. When we explore judgement and self judgement together, we begin to see the intricate web that connects our inner world with the world around us.

This exploration is not about eliminating judgement. It is about transforming our relationship with it. It is about recognizing its origins, its purpose and its impact. It is about learning to meet ourselves and others with greater compassion, clarity and presence.

The Roots of Judgement

Judgement often arises from fear, conditioning or past experiences. It is a protective mechanism designed to help us navigate the unknown. When something feels unfamiliar or uncomfortable, the mind categorizes it. It labels it. It evaluates it. This process is natural. It is part of being human.

However, when judgement becomes rigid or automatic, it can create distance. It can prevent us from seeing the truth of a situation or the essence of a person. It can keep us locked in old patterns and assumptions. It can limit our capacity to grow.

Judgement is not inherently negative. It becomes harmful when it replaces curiosity, empathy or understanding. When we judge without awareness, we close the door to deeper connection.

The Inner Landscape of Self Judgement

Self judgement is often harsher than any judgement we direct toward others. It is shaped by childhood experiences, societal expectations and internalized beliefs. It tells us we are not enough. It tells us we should be different. It tells us we must earn our worth.

Self judgement can appear as perfectionism, comparison, shame or self criticism. It can influence how we interpret feedback, how we respond to challenges and how we relate to our own emotions. It can create an inner environment of tension rather than acceptance.

When we judge ourselves, we often project that judgement outward. We become more critical of others. We become less patient, less open and less compassionate. Our relationship with ourselves becomes the foundation for our relationship with the world.

Judgement as a Mirror

Every judgement we hold toward others reveals something about our inner world. It may reflect an unhealed wound, a suppressed desire or a part of ourselves we have not yet accepted. When we judge someone for being too emotional, too loud, too quiet or too confident, we are often reacting to something within us that feels unresolved.

This does not mean we are wrong for having these reactions. It simply means that judgement can be a teacher. It can show us where we are still growing. It can reveal the places where we have not yet offered ourselves compassion.

When we approach judgement with curiosity rather than shame, it becomes a doorway to deeper self understanding.

The Impact of Judgement on Relationships

Judgement creates distance. It creates walls. It creates misunderstandings. When we judge others, we stop seeing them clearly. We see only the story we have created about them. This can lead to conflict, resentment or disconnection.

In relationships, judgement often arises when expectations are unmet or when fears are triggered. We may judge someone for not behaving the way we want them to. We may judge them for reminding us of something painful. We may judge them because we are afraid of being vulnerable.

When we soften our judgement, we create space for authentic connection. We begin to listen more deeply. We begin to see the humanity in others. We begin to understand that everyone is navigating their own inner landscape.

Transforming Judgement into Awareness

The first step in transforming judgement is awareness. When we notice a judgement arising, we pause. We breathe. We observe. We ask ourselves what the judgement is trying to protect. We ask what it is revealing. We ask what it is teaching.

This simple act of awareness shifts us from reaction to reflection. It allows us to respond with intention rather than habit. It opens the door to compassion.

The second step is acceptance. We do not shame ourselves for judging. We do not judge the judgement. We simply acknowledge it. We allow it to be seen. Acceptance dissolves resistance and creates space for transformation.

The third step is choice. We choose how we want to move forward. We choose whether to hold onto the judgement or release it. We choose whether to respond with fear or with understanding. We choose whether to close or to open.

Cultivating Compassion for Self and Others

Compassion is the antidote to judgement. It softens the edges. It brings warmth to the places that feel cold. It reminds us that everyone is doing the best they can with the awareness they have.

Compassion does not mean ignoring boundaries or accepting harmful behavior. It means seeing the deeper truth beneath the surface. It means recognizing the shared humanity in every person. It means offering ourselves the same kindness we offer others.

When we cultivate compassion, our relationships transform. We communicate more clearly. We forgive more easily. We connect more deeply. We see others not through the lens of judgement but through the lens of understanding.

Walking the Path of Conscious Relationship

To walk the path of conscious relationship is to walk with awareness of our inner world. It is to recognize that our relationship with ourselves shapes every interaction we have. It is to understand that judgement is not a flaw but a signal. It is a call to look within.

When we meet ourselves with gentleness, we naturally extend that gentleness to others. When we release self judgement, we release the need to judge others. When we embrace our own imperfections, we become more accepting of the imperfections of those around us. This path is not about perfection. It is about presence. It is about choosing love over fear. It is about choosing understanding over assumption. It is about choosing connection over separation.

May your journey with judgement and self judgement be one of clarity, compassion and awakening. May you see yourself and others with new eyes. May you walk forward with an open heart and a deeper sense of connection to the world around you.

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