Love vs Attachment - Is this Seeking Love? by Care’n Mooney

Care'n Mooney
Feb 22
4 min read

Updated: Feb 23

Love is in the air, birds do it, bees do it, and the little fishes in the sea do it.

So, what is this thing called love?

Songs are consumed with lyrics about falling in love or about the pain of falling out of love. We dress for it, we change how we think for it, we may even cheat and manipulate for it. Is this love, or is this simply the attachment that gives us the illusion of love?

When we are driven by the need to look, sound, act and respond in a certain way in order to attract a mate or companion, is this a high vibration of love or an expression of a lower vibration? Does this come from a need to fit it, or does it come from a desire to be an extension of our self-expression.

Because love is the highest of all vibrations it does not require a person to become something or someone that loses their authenticity. Love only seeks truth, and equity and being true to your inner self.

Society and marketing depend on you spending millions of dollars on the right car, the most prestigious house, the most expensive perfume, unlimited makeup and constantly searching for the perfect body.

Attachment demands that we fit into this criteria are we will be forever alone if we do not conform and do everything in our power to obtain these objects.

Love on the other hand comes from understanding, trust, really being there and supporting someone non-judgmentally, allowing them to grow and become the best they can be.

As living beings, it is natural and necessary for us to form an emotional bond with our mothers, our friends and family and even with our animal friends. We also form this bond when you share a life changing experience with someone or find you share something passionately in common. Love always urges and encourages us to be the best we can be.

This bond is essential to our existence, and it is very different than attachment This bond, like love, comes from trust, security and knowing that those around us give us support and encouragement and it is always for our highest good.

When you form this love bond you can thrive, be authentic and be a blessing in all of your relationships, whether they are personal, professional or business.

Let's look at this emotional bond between humans and their four-legged friends. Animals love you unconditionally, are nonjudgmental and very forgiving and they even morn the loss of their human as deeply as humans do. They are even willing to give their life for you.

Attachment uses, abuses and then throws away the person or relationship as easily as changing clothes.

When a relationship is based on attachment it is weak and breakable and will always and in a broken heart and will make it extremely difficult to move on.

When I realized that my marriage of 23 years was coming to an end , I knew that I had done everything that I knew how to do to repair it , I had the opportunity to meet with my husband and the person that he decided he wanted to spend the rest of his life with .I said to them ' I love him enough to let him go , if he did not want to be in this marriage I was not going to force him .I had no desire to , try and get even with him or make him pay for I realized that no matter how hard it was for me neither one of us would benefit from an agonizing , hurtful parting . This was probably one of the best decisions I ever made because I am free , free of the burden of carrying this around , free of the burden of it affecting all my other relationships and free of the burden of completely destroying the relationship that he could have with his children .He and I are now good friends and his new wife {not the person he left me for} is a good woman and she and I get along pleasantly .

However, had I been attached to being right, to having been wronged and abandon I would have sought retaliation and spent hundreds of dollars in counseling leaving myself and my children with unresolved emotional garbage and pain .

Attachment is an addiction and a prison

Love is the freedom of the soul

Every Tuesday evening, I host a heart-centered meditation at my center in Mesa, Arizona, which I call the Open-Heart Meditation. During this session, I guide the group into the depths of our heart’s center, filling it with joy as we allow it to expand and vibrate faster and faster. Through this practice, we embrace our true essence as beings of light.

If you’re in the Phoenix or Mesa area, I warmly invite you to join us. Feel free to reach out and become part of our Open-Heart Meditation community.