Love vs Attachment by Care’n Mooney

Care'n Mooney
15 hours ago
3 min read

Love is in the air, the birds do it, the bees do it, and everything else does it. So, what is it? Those who are consumed about that falling in love or about the falling out of love. We dress for it, we change for it, sometimes we even cheat and manipulate for it. But is this love, or is it attachment?

When we are driven by the need to look, sound, act, and respond in a certain way in order to attract a mate or a companion this is the lower vibration of lust not love. It comes from a need to be complete and not an unawareness of expansion and self-expression.

Because love is a high vibration, it does not require a person to become something or someone that is not authentic. Love seeks truth, integrity, and being authentic. Love sees beyond age, imperfection, color, status, or body shape. Love seeks a common deep connection that supersedes the physical attraction.

Society and marketing depend on you spending millions on the right car, house, clothing, perfume, make up, and body shape.

Attachment demands that we fit all these criteria and that we will be left alone if we do not conform and do everything in our power to attain all these tools.

Love comes from understanding, trust, being there for someone, being nonjudgmental, allowing them to grow, and giving support.

Attachment comes from dependency, fear, control, and limitations and changes like the seasons, always looking for another attachment.

As living beings, it is necessary for us to form an emotional bond, not attachment, with our family and friends and even our animal friends, and people that we share life changing experiences with and have something very much in common with. These are healthy connections and encourage us to be the best we can be.

This bond is essential to our existence but is very different from attachment. This bond, like love, comes from trust, security, and knowing that they have your best interest at heart and will stand by you.

When you form a love bond you can thrive, be authentic, and be a blessing in your relationships. Let's take a look at this bond between humans and their four legged friends. Animals are unconditional, nonjudgment, and very forgiving, and they mourn the loss of their human as deeply as humans do. They are willing to give their life for them.

Attachment uses, abuses, and then throws away the person or relationship as easily as changing clothes. When a relationship is based on attachment it is weak and breakable and will always end in a broken heart and makes it extremely difficult to move on.

When I realized that my marriage of 23 years was coming to an end, I had the opportunity to meet with my husband and the person that he had decided he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. I said to them, I love him enough to let him go, because if he did not want to be in the marriage I was not going to force him. I did not want to hurt them or get even or make him pay. I realized that no matter how hard it was for me either one of us would benefit from an agonizing hurtful parting. This was probably one of the best decisions I ever made because even now we are good friends and his new wife and I get along pleasantly.

However, had I been attached to the whole situation I would have sought retaliation, spent hundreds of dollars in counseling, leaving myself and my children with unresolved emotional garbage and pain.

Every Tuesday evening, I host a heart-centered meditation at my center in Mesa, Arizona, which I call the Open-Heart Meditation. During this session, I guide the group into the depths of our heart’s center, filling it with joy as we allow it to expand and vibrate faster and faster. Through this practice, we embrace our true essence as beings of light.

If you’re in the Phoenix or Mesa area, I warmly invite you to join us. Feel free to reach out and become part of our Open-Heart Meditation community.